The Mental Shift…

Some days are harder than others…and for me, today started out as one of those days. Just as I’m writing this, I thought about the things that are going on and what I’ve been doing about them.
Yes I’ve prayed and thanked God for the best possible outcome. But I’ve been mulling over the worst in my mind…thinking about the worst case scenario, going over what I would say if the unwanted thing happened and honestly just being inwardly angry.
Angry because I’m frustrated with the situation and the thing that seems to get better only temporarily.
As I’m seeing this now, it’s time to mentally shift my focus. Shift it from the “what if’s” to the “this is what I believe”.
I believe that all things are working together for my good and that God is concerned about me…therefore, I don’t have to get caught up in the negative cycle of thoughts!
Think the best. Expect the best. This will be on mental repeat for me!
Although things don’t always go as planned, we can choose to see the best and not the worst…and that’s the choice that I’m choosing to make✌️

What Came From Being Outside Of My Comfort Zone…

“Great things never come from comfort zones”
I seen this quote today and it totally resonated deep within me. It seems as if for the past few months very few things I have done have been within my comfort zone. You see, I’m an introvert and I thrive in small, routine based settings. And for the last three months my life has been anything but what I’m used too.
We left our small church, my husband is head coach of a high school football (which came with rebuilding a program and me being a big part of the booster club), I’m volunteering as a leader in a teen/young mom group, our children are all starting a new school, I went to my first writers retreat w/new people and 90% of the people I have been interacting w/as of lately are new.
Although at times all the new things that are going on make my head spin and cause exhaustion, it’s all exciting! It’s exciting to do things that in the past would cause me to either shrink in fear or be stagnant,knowing that to move and do something different would push me to new limits.
Throughout it all, I’m thankful.
I’m thankful to be in a place where I’m forced to see and do things differently than before. Being outside of my comfort zone has caused me to grow and nurture the woman that I am destined to become. New opportunities and relationships, a changed mind and a beautiful portrait of what’s to come came from being outside of my comfort zone…xo

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A Better Tomorrow…

I wish I could say that I have perfectly behaved children at all times but I can’t. Our son had the worst attitude because he couldn’t go to football practice due to the rain and while volunteering today his twin sister decided that she was going to stand in her self-made puddle…of pee.
And our youngest barely reaches my kneecap but can throw a tantrum that most kids could only dream of…
But instead of me sulking and mentally calling myself the worst mother ever, I’m choosing to not freak out.
I’m choosing to smile and be pleasant when I really want to yell and flee from my home.
I’m choosing to clean up the messes, wash the clothes, hand out the consequences, give the speeches…and continue to believe that I’m a good mom and because God gave me these children, he’ll give me the grace to handle the everyday things that come up with love and compassion.
So, cheers to a better tomorrow! Xo
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Time to Tighten Up…

For the past few days I have felt a little disconnected…nothing major just that inkling in the pit of my stomach that I need to tighten up on some things.
So, instead of me getting down and beating myself up, I am going to take the time tonight to pray, make out my schedule, write, re-write my personal affirmations and get back to my place of growth and personal development 🙂
What do you do when you feel the need to “tighten up”??? Xo

My Children Suddenly Forgot To Say Thank You…

For the past week or so, there has been a reoccurring theme with our children…them not saying thank you. They say it after I tell them that they didn’t, but it’s after the fact and it just doesn’t feel the same.
A couple of hours ago the same thing happened. They asked for hot tea (one of their favorites), I made it and then called them in the kitchen to get it. And they got their little teacups and walked right back into the den.
I called them back into the kitchen and reminded them that they didn’t say “thank you”. Of course they said, “oh, thank you Mom”…
This time it wasn’t enough. I made them put their teacups back on the countertop. I explained to them that saying thank you is how you show appreciation and if they don’t do it at home with me, then they won’t do it outside of home. And if they aren’t appreciative, then they won’t get what it is that they wanted.
So, my plan of action is to address this again during dinner, to look up some scriptures to give them and to continue to bring their attention to how important being thankful is.
So, how do you deal with your children if/when they forget their manners?
Xo

Monday Motivation: You Are So Much More Than Just

Happy Monday!
When people used to ask me what I did for a living, I used to say, “Oh, I’m just a stay at home wife and mom”…Just! Just a stay at home wife and mom, that was seruously my answer.
“Just” put so many limitations on me. “Just” kept me in a box, confined to a life of average…until I realized that I am so much more than “just”.
In addition to being a SAHWM, I am also a blogger, (soon to be) author, volunteer leader w/teen and young moms, encourager and lover of creativity, to name a few 😜
So, this week I hope that you dont see yourself as “just” one of the roles you’ve been given in life.
I hope that you see yourself as a valuable, purposeful person in addition to a success at whatever roles you have been so blessed to be given…You are so much more than your”Just”!!! Xo

Mommy Declarations!

Hi All!! I have such a heart for Mothers! I know first hand what it’s like to be so caught up in being a wife and mommy that it can be hard seeing myself doing anything else. Specifically the things that I am gifted to do…created to do. For the past week I have been making my declarations everyday and I can see the difference. I’m taking the time to change my mind and my actions are following.
I pray that whatever it is that God has called you to do that you do it…all while being the best wife, mother, sister, friend (and whatever else you are!)ever.
You can do it!  

Today will be a great day! Everything that I need to get done will be done w/out dread, with excellence and on time.

My children call me blessed! I am a mother after God’s heart, therefore I speak positively into the hearts of my children.

I am loved. I am beautiful. I am God’s daughter. I am confident in myself b/c I have complete confidence in my Daddy God!

I walk in my God given purpose on purpose daily.

I live under an open heaven! Every blessing that God has for me I recieve, with a grateful heart.

I am blessed to be a blessing.

I am productive. Everything I put my hands to is blessed.

The Beginning…of something great (and helpful)

Today I got a text that totally got my attention. It was from a young lady I know asking if I had any spare diapers b/c she had ran out and didn’t have any for her son.
I know that this text must have taken so much courage to send. I think that I would have been embarrassed, upset and maybe even a little negative if I were in her shoes. We texted back and forth and I told her that I would bring her the ones that I had w/me (b/c I was on my way to pick up our oldest daughter from school) but I would get her some while I was out.

While I was at the store it hit me that if she was going through this that there were probably a lot of others in the same situation. I’ve had an idea for awhile that God has called me to help young women but honestly the thought of it was scary and overwhelming. In the past I’ve let me thinking that I didn’t know enough or that I wasn’t a scholar of the Word or finances stop me from moving out of my comfort zone. But today I thought “just start”.

So that’s what I did; just started! I started by supplying a young lady diapers and wipes today. And that’s what I am going to build on–supplying a need. I know that there has to be other mothers in my city who are, have been or know someone who may need diapers for their child. I will be building from this experience to not only collect and distribute baby items but also encourage young mothers to be their best in every area of their life…the grace that God gives me, I want to give to them.

So, the journey of “Thee Mommy Diaries” begins…your prayers, ideas/expertise, and/or diaper donations (all sizes needed, hey I have to start somewhere right?!) are much appreciated! I’m thankful for purpose…my God given purpose-to be a help to young mothers in need:-)

Matters of My Heart…

The matters of the heart are sometimes bigger than what we acknowledge…
I have spent years with a smile on my face and appeared to be nonchalant with a heart full of anger, insecurities, hate, jealousy and envy.
I thought that just b/c people couldn’t see what was going on in my heart that it was okay. If I was nice enough or even portrayed myself as unconcerned, I thought that what was going on inside would just go away and wouldn’t harm anybody.

I was sooooo wrong! My heart affected my relationship with God, others and everything about me. There were so many things that I had in my heart that were literally killing me daily. Low self-esteem, comparisons to others and thinking that I wasn’t important all came from my heart.
Although I never spoke some things out, the very sight or thought of some people caused the ugliness of my heart to boil over into my entire being.

Everything that is good and even what’s bad starts in the heart. I’m learning to keep my heart clean by being honest with God, speaking the Word and positive affirmations and studying the a Word.

A clean heart has brought me so much freedom, peace, confidence and a more intimate, real relationship with God that goes way past what people see…it’s goes and shines a light on every dark, dingy spot that tries to keep me stagnant and sitting in a place of judgement and scorn. A clean heart keeps me in a place of humility. Always recognizing my need for my Savior. Apart from Him a clean heart is an impossibility…but w/Him, and His grace, my heart is made new…daily.

Patience and Faith are my Virtues….

So…the past couple of days my sweet, much needed virtues of Patience and Faith, have been much needed.  I went to the Dr. yesterday and was told that my little man was still very high up and I was only dilated 1 centimeter.  And then on top of that I have to get another ultrasound to see how much are little guy weighs, my doc says that she is estimating that he will be 8 pounds or more.  This news was not music to my ears!!!

I honestly was going to this appointment hoping and praying that there was going to be some relief for me in near sight.  All my fellow mama’s know about the discomfort, heaviness, anxiety, and sleepless nights that come along with the tail end of pregnancy.  And I just wanted out!!!  I want my body back!  I didn’t want to have to push out a 10 pounder and I just want to see my little guy, and know what his name will be (yeah, I had a dream about another name last month, so now the name that we already had is in question :-))

But right now, with the baby chillin and the other things that have been coming up lately, I have decided to let patience and faith be my anchors.  I am believing that even with everything that is going on that God’s best is going to come from it and I still have a lot to be thankful for.  Regardless of when our baby comes and how much he weighs, I am extremely thankful to be his mommy.  I am thankful about how God has blessed my womb with my 2 previous pregnancies (40   weeks exactly w/Virginia and 39 weeks 1 day w/twins) when I was told that I wouldn’t be able to carry any child to full-term b/c of a weak cervix.

So for me I have to keep going back to my anchors, the very things that will keep me grounded and steady~patience and faith.  I have to be PATIENT w/the process and have FAITH that all things are going to work out for good and that God’s glory is going to be shown in my life.  I can’t say that I have it all together but I can say that I am believing and expecting to receive the best from every area of my life!!!

So, how about you?  What virtues are you holding on too right now????