With everything going on in the world- from the horrible shooting in Orlando to the everyday hatred expressed toward people bc of their race, sexual orientation or beliefs, please let’s not only pray for people, let’s treat people with kindness, respect, and love. 

There’s a big chance that a lot of people will live their lives in a way that we don’t agree with but that’s never an excuse to treat people with disrespect and/or disregard.

Every person is valuable and should be treated as such.

“You can never help someone that you don’t value…” 

Words to live by…words to put into action daily-value yourself and others.

A few days ago I read an article about a Stanford swimmer being sentenced to six months in county jail for the rape and assault on a young woman. Along with many others, I am completely outraged…however not surprised.

I’ve read the articles about how the judge said that he didnt want to ruin this young man’s life and how his father said that his son is paying for “2o minutes of action”.

Nowhere have I seen concern for the victim. I don’t care if she was drunk or not-no one deserves to be raped, assaulted and completely disregarded…this young lady’s life is forever changed. Not only was she raped and assaulted, according to the words, sentencing and actions of the judge, her rapist and his father-her hurt, pain and mental anguish don’t matter. Nowhere have I seen that this boy, yes I said boy, has taken responsibility for his actions or even shown an ounce of remorse. He said that he wants to educate others on binge drinking and promiscuity-ummm…the only thing that you are showing others is how entitlement, privilege and a complete disregard for others is displayed, and worked out for you, in 2016. His father said that his son doesn’t enjoy “eating rib eye steaks anymore”….what about the young woman who I’m sure doesn’t enjoy so many things since her unfortunate encounter with her life’s worst nightmare.

I read her victims impact statement and was brought to tears. To not only go through the hell that she has and not remember it, to be told that bc is was drunk, it doesn’t matter and her being violated isn’t that serious is heartbreaking. 

This man will spend three months in county jail while his victim has been sentenced to a lifetime of shame, torment and the realization that the person who violated her is of more concern than her wellbeing. 

I pray that this young lady is strengthened and healed emotionally, physically and mentally. I pray she never sees her self worth through the eyes of the sentencing judge, her perpetrator or his family. I pray that this life changing tragedy Serves as her motivation to speak out against rape and sexual assault all over the world. I pray that she that loves, trusts and has joy without fear. I pray that she positively impacts many and that all of her dreams come true…

Earlier this week I saw an article  about a 15 year old girl in Florida having sex with at least 2 dozens boys in the school bathroom…it was video taped and shared on social media. 

My first thought was where is this young girl? What is going on with her for this to happen? Why did these boys think this was acceptable? And why in the name of all that is good would somebody put this on social media???

Well, at least a few of my questions were answered…this young girl had been a part of human trafficking for a few years. She was returned home to her mother and has recieved treatment but nothing specifically for sexual abuse.

Man…this makes my heart hurt. To think of how broken and distorted this young lady’s view of herself, sex and her worth have to be. I can’t even imagine the mental turmoil and pain that she must feel…or maybe even doesn’t feel because of all she’s been through. Maybe she just wanted to feel like someone cared for her…or thought she was beautiful even if for a second…or that maybe this time someone would like her in return.

I wish I haa a grandiose plan about how we could all together save the world and many other young girls like this but I don’t. All I have is the notion that if we take the the time to be better and treat everyone that crosses our path with love, respect and significance than just maybe we could inspire someone to be better, even if it’s just in passing. 

Maybe there’s someone who just needs to see you going about your day with peace and positivity to help them do the same.

If you can volunteer, volunteer.

If you can pray, pray.

If you can make a monetary donations, donate.

If you can cook a meal and give it away, cook and give.

If you can invite someone into your home, welcome them, love them and serve them, do so.

Whatever it is, on whatever level, do so in hopes of being better so that someone else can do the same…

Just seen a quote on Instagram-“Let go of what happened, but keep the lesson”…

We lose so much time being offended, holding on to regret/guilt, thinking about someone who isn’t thinking about us, harboring the old and blocking the new from our lives.

Let go of the negativity. Keep the lesson. It’ll help you from making the same mistake or reacting the same way.

Let Go. Keep the Lesson. Move On.

Father, help me to speak to my children with love. Show me how to nurture their gifts and bring out the best in them. Let me be an example of grace and excellence. Give the the words to affirm them and lead them into their destiny. Fill our home with your peace and your presence always….❤️🙏🏾

In Jesus’ beautiful Name, Amen

Don’t let what’s going on around you get in you…

Yes we can be going through some tough times. Maybe you’re surrounded by negative people, mean/angry people or you might even be dealing with lack in your finances…don’t allow what’s going on to get in you. Into your heart. Your mind. It’s so easy to become negative bc that’s what we see or what we’re surrounded by. Or become afraid and put walls up. Or think that bc you’re experiencing lack in your finances now, that you’re bound to live in poverty forever. 

Don’t take on a mindset that mirrors you’re not so good circumstances. Yes this can be hard. Yes it takes work. Yes change may not show up immediately. But aren’t you worth it? Aren’t you worth working for? Don’t you believe that you deserve to live a beautiful, purposeful, positive, abundant life??? 

I do, so let’s do the work to get there…

Before you can do anything, whether it’s losing weight, buying a house, starting a business, being more efficient with your time-you have to Get In Position.

Whatever change that has to be made, Get in Position. That means you have to start doing what needs to be done to get you to where you have to go. 

Lose weight-Start a workout plan and eat healthier…

Buy a house-Get your credit report and contact creditors to start paying off debt…

Use your time better-Get a planner and plan out your day from sunrise to sunset…

Get in Position to achieve your goals and be the best version of you daily. Start now. 

Can I be completely honest??? The past few weeks in Mommyville have absolutely sucked for me. Horrible grades, attitudes and not so good behaviors have been in heavy rotation as of late…and I for one am not feeling it. It’s hard to try to fix a problem and be absolutely clueless as to where to start all that the same time. I thought I was on the right track with weekly tutoring and then Bam, bad grades in two totally different subjects. And to top it all off—it’s the last few weeks of school. 

As I write this blog, I’m honestly feeling like the worst mother ever…but I keep telling myself that it’s not the end of the world, things will get better and I’m mapping out the actions we need to take to help our children’s progression. 

So to all my Mommy’s out there who maybe in the same boat-lets get out paddles out and row toward a better tomorrow…enjoy Your Mothers Day and soak he best over yourself and your children!

Enjoy the moments. Appreciate the here and now. Start small and build up. Think on the best…repeat good thoughts out loud. Bring light and love everywhere you go.

Be Great…Happy Monday!!!!

I heard that quote today and honestly it left me inspired. Inspired to do life in a better, more giving way. 

Have  you ever looked at someone and thought, “Man, I wish I could do that…I dream about doing what they’re doing”.

Well, chances are you have something in you that’s destined to change lives. It could be a book, a business, an invention. It could be a calling/gift to teach preschool, compassion to help the homeless, recipes for the busy mom or even prayers for a family. Whatever it is, start today. Finish soon. Don’t die with the encouragement/gifts someone else needs to reach there highest potentional still in you…start pouring yourself out today.