First Teachers…

Parenthood has so many twist and turns. Some days I am completely convinced that I am crushing it! My planner is up to date (including color coded events and a current to-do list that has checks by the majority of the items), the kids have had a hot breakfast before school, the house is clean, lines are in the freshly vacuumed carpet and it smells like either a tropical fruit or a warm sugar cookie, and I am dressed in appropriately cute mom attire and lip gloss is applied before 8am.  Then some days it’s the complete opposite. I get up late, the kids are scarfing down cereal, the house is a wreck and I may have picked up one of my youngest from school in my slippers… On those not so good days, it is so easy for me to criticize myself on how I should have gotten up earlier and if I only would have planned the night before, instead of falling asleep with my baby, I could have been deemed a success by the imaginary “mothering board” (these people exist solely in my head when I having not so good days, especially on the mommy front).

But one of the things that has stood out to me as of lately is that I am teaching my children, even if it isn’t intentional. As parents we have to set a standard for our children so that when they grow up and go away from home they have an example to refer back too.  Hopefully that example is a good one.

I want my children to always be able to recognize what real love is and does because of our home. I want them to know what a healthy relationship is because of our marriage. I want them to be able to take care of their home and be faithful to their families and careers because they have seen it from us first. I also want my babies to know how to live gracefully and be able to start again, with a clear mind and heart, when things go left.  All of it starts from home…Our Home…Their First School with us as Their First Teachers.

So today as you go about being a fabulous mama, think about what you are teaching your babies…on purpose and by example

Monday Motivation: Pray, Prepare…

“If You Pray For It, Prepare For It”…this simple, eight word quote speaks volumes to me!!! I can remember when we were in the process of buying our home. We had been looking for months, put in three offers, praying and believing…but nothing seemed to be going our way. 

I can remember feeling down and out, tired of waiting. But eventually, I did the opposite of what my situation called for. I started packing up stuff, throwing out what we didn’t need, and keeping the house that we were in like it was the home we had been dreaming of. And in time, we found our home and the transition was smoother because of the preparation that took place throughout the process. 

Same thing goes for our goals, dreams and aspirations…prepare, get ready, for what you’re praying for. If it’s to be a speaker- study, perfect your gift. If it’s s new car-keep your current one washed, cleaned out and up to date on maintenance. If it’s to be wealthy- clean your credit up and stay up to date on bills. Sometimes it’s not so much about how much we are doing, it’s about being excellent and consistent in what we are doing. 

So friends and fellow mommies, let’s start, and finish out, this week by Being Prepared For The Blessing(s) That We’ve Been Praying For…

My Light🔥🔥🔥

Being who I am hasn’t always come easy for me,

I used to be so focused on the opinions of others that I couldn’t recognize that I was made in the image of perfection.

I was created by the Greatest Creator who creates without making any mistakes.

I couldn’t recognize the light that was glowing ever so dimly on the inside of me.

The Light that was once aglow became a tenth of what it used to be. Words and opinions of others caused my once bright light to become dim, diminished, unrecongnizable–I allowed others to fan my flame. To make it smaller, less than what it was created to be.

Then one day, everything clicked. It was time for me to re-light my flame…and I did. Day by day, my light began to shine brighter because of what I thought about me. I went to my Creator for more…more Wisdom. more Confidence. more Love. Purpose. Affirming. Forgiveness. more Positivity. more of His Power.

My light has returned…and it’s here to stay. 

 

Love Compels…💞

Love is one the strongest emotions one can have.
It can be the one thing that drives you, causes you ACT and not just feel.
Love…Compels. Leads. Creates.
Love turns empathy into action and a conversation into a plan.
Love picks up where words left off.
Love creates an opportunity where there was once only a problem.
Love transforms a negative into a positive.
Love changes. Love forgives. Love accepts and moves on without being disrespectful.
What is LOve compelling you to do??

Beauty…💞

You’re beautiful because you were created with a specific purpose and a destiny…
You’re beautiful because of the light that you shed into the lives of so many…
You’re beautiful because even though people have failed you over and over…you still choose to love and forgive
You’re beautiful because you’re kind, loving and so gracious
You’re beautiful because the dreams you dream are to help others be their best…
You’re beautiful because success means fulfilling your purpose and has nothing to do with your possessions or what type of handbags you carry…
You’re beautiful because you see the good in others and not just the reflection of the bad from their pasts…
Your beautiful because your always seeking to be better by knowing your Creator better…
Your beauty runs deep…not because it’s from what you look like or what you have, but because it comes from your heart and your desire to be a help to those in need…
You’re beautiful just because you are you💜

The Younger Me…

For the past six months or so, I’ve been volunteering at a local ministry w/their teen and young moms. Every Tuesday I get to go have dinner and interact with some of the most amazing young women.
Every week I come home so grateful that God chose me…
Literally I feel as if I’m able to love on my “younger self”.
The younger me who was so insecure and broken that I thought shutting out the world was the best thing to do…
The me that just wanted to be in a relationship where I knew that I was cared about, even in the simplest of ways…
The me that was so self-absorbed that I thought material things would show people that I was worthy of being deemed significant…
The me that thought that if I drank enough and partied enough, I could get the images of family members looking at me as if I was nothing, because I was my mother’s child, out of my mental bank…
The me that opted out of motherhood early on b/c I feared that I had nothing to give to a child…
Every week these things come into play. Every week I get to hug someone, talk to someone, love on someone’s baby in hopes that the “younger me” that I identify w/in them, can somehow know that eventually you’ll realize that you’re worth more than rubies…Xo

Sometimes…

Sometimes the things/circumstances that catch you off guard and cause you to question everything…are the very things that you needed to elevate you to where you need to be❤️❤️❤️
Enjoy the journey!!!

Enjoy the Journey…🚗💨

“Enjoy the journey”…those are the exact words my husband looked up from his book and told me this morning.
I said ok halfheartedly and kept busy with the task at hand. He laughed, came back and said “Babe there’s joy in everything. Don’t get so caught up in the future and the things to come that you don’t enjoy everything that we’re already so blessed with”.
This is true.
As of lately, I have been caught up in what I want instead of being being thankful for what I do have.
There’s not a lot that I have to complain about but those few things that aren’t as I would like them at the moment have been made my focus instead of my petition….
With that being said, I’m taking the time today to enjoy the journey. There are so many things that I can be thankful for and that’s what I’m choosing to do….xo

The Mental Shift…

Some days are harder than others…and for me, today started out as one of those days. Just as I’m writing this, I thought about the things that are going on and what I’ve been doing about them.
Yes I’ve prayed and thanked God for the best possible outcome. But I’ve been mulling over the worst in my mind…thinking about the worst case scenario, going over what I would say if the unwanted thing happened and honestly just being inwardly angry.
Angry because I’m frustrated with the situation and the thing that seems to get better only temporarily.
As I’m seeing this now, it’s time to mentally shift my focus. Shift it from the “what if’s” to the “this is what I believe”.
I believe that all things are working together for my good and that God is concerned about me…therefore, I don’t have to get caught up in the negative cycle of thoughts!
Think the best. Expect the best. This will be on mental repeat for me!
Although things don’t always go as planned, we can choose to see the best and not the worst…and that’s the choice that I’m choosing to make✌️

What I’m Learning From the Death of Mike Brown…

There is so much going on in our world today that is just heartbreaking and it shows me how far we’ve come but in so many ways how things are still the same…
For the past week or so social media, news, and other outlets have been ablaze w/updates on the death of a young black man, Mike Brown.
For the first time in awhile this situation made me think, what is it that my husband and I will tell our sons and daughters about the world that we live in?
How can we tell them that there are some people who won’t like you or think you are of no value just because of the color of your skin? How do you explain this w/o crushing their innocence and hope in love?
We have been so blessed to know and be friends w/some pretty amazing people of different races. More than anything I think that God has put our family in a place to show others that we are not that much different from them and to subtly lay to rest the things that they’ve heard or thought about black people…and vice versa.
The one thing that I do know is that my husband I are raising Godly, assertive, purpose filled children who know who God has created them to be. I can’t say that they will never encounter a bad experience b/c of the color of their skin but I can say that we will teach our children to love and respect everyone and to never allow the opinion of others cause them to question their worth and purpose in life…
Praying for our world…Xo

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